Cutting Ties: The Painful Truth of This Journey

The Rituals That Keep Us Grounded

The spiritual journey is never a linear path. It is one that is literally and metaphorically a roller coaster. And it is not for the faint of heart.

There are daily and weekly rituals we do that keep us grounded and sane when there’s upheaval and also through the peaceful times. The daily five minute meditations refocus us. That favorite tourmaline necklace blocks the energy that doesn’t serve you. That rose quartz ring reminds you that you matter. The smoke from the sage bundle coming through in the clutch when the energy just feels “off.” And that lovely flower bath you soak in after a long day helps you relax into a soothing sleep.

But through these daily rituals, there is massive change happening on levels we don’t often see or feel. Sometimes, these invisible changes make us feel off centered or even paranoid because we cannot pinpoint it in a tangible way.

When Your Vibration Starts to Rise

Here is what I mean….

You’ve started this spiritual journey to better yourself, connect with your ancestors, manifest your dreams. Things start to go well. You get that new job. You’re accomplishing goals both big and small. Take the wins wherever you can. But something feels off, maybe a shoe is about to drop somewhere. But where?

You start to notice the energy shift when you are around certain people. Could be a coworker, an old friend, the person you are dating. Your body starts to react when around them or you see their name pop up. Things are going well for you, but when you bring up an accomplishment, they tend to change the subject, make it about them, or even say “I wish I could do that.” They even start talking about all the things that can go wrong. All of a sudden, they are the loudest naysayer. This visceral reaction makes you feel almost guilty for all the work you have done. These accomplishments and changes did not come easy. But yet it feels as if they reduce your win to mere luck. But luck comes when preparation meets opportunity. And GIRL, you are doing the work!

Little by little, the space feels smaller, the air is gone, you’re tired. Maybe a headache starts to prickle. Maybe your food doesn't land well. You feel grouchy but you were just feeling fine. THIS is the pain no one really talks about while on the spiritual journey.

The Signs You Can’t Ignore

As you put in the work to better yourself, your vibration begins to rise. The lower vibrations, though nothing may be “wrong” with it, simply does not fit YOUR narrative anymore. The more you ignore these signs the louder they become. So, it is best to pay attention.

But what about when these signs are pointing to the people you actually love?

Relatives, best friends, good colleagues. Nothing on this journey prepares you to mourn the loss of those who hold value in your heart. You feel the death of a chapter coming. During this time, remember it is a transition. It does not have to be a full loss. Do not allow “cancel culture” to dictate your choices. Sometimes, these people are not the priority in your life right now. They do not have to be fully removed from your life if there is real love and value in the relationship. If there is respect, talk with them. Let them know you are on this journey of self improvement. Your energy is on a budget right now. And THAT IS OK!

When It’s Time to Let Go

Hold on a minute; this is not to say to keep the actual toxic relationships. Those are perfectly fine to cancel. Especially if you wake up and finally recognize the manipulation, lies, trauma bonds, and downright envy. This is why we do the spiritual work we do. To get rid of the garbage that no longer serves us. Recycle what we can, repurpose what can be changed, and keep what we value and will serve our highest selves.

Mourn the loss of these toxic relationships. Mourn the loss that comes with change. Our hearts and souls cared for these people. They even cared about us. Mourn the time spent together and who you were with them. Grieve for who you once were.

CELEBRATE!

But celebrate who you have become. Celebrate with the new friends and chosen family. Celebrate with the old friends who are taking this journey with you.

Because this journey is truly a path less traveled and you have faced some big shadows. Throughout each day, take a moment to be present with yourself. Count the blessings around you. You deserve all your wins!!!

With Light & Progress,
Irene